Susan

Women's Group Alumni

When I joined the program, I was feeling very stuck and frustrated, unsure of how to move forward. This program has helped me through the forgiveness I really needed, both for the narcissist and for myself. I realized that was a crucial step for my healing. Through this process, even though I still feel a burden on my shoulders, our compassionate Lord is right there with me and has shown me a vision. I’m so excited now and full of hope! He has perfect timing.

Jenna

Women's Group Alumni

I can’t even begin to say what a relief it is to be in a group coaching environment with Shaneen and other women who have experienced the chaos and destruction of life with a narcissist. With these women, I don’t have to explain the craziness that is so hard to articulate to people in normal relationships. I don’t have to justify myself or wonder if I am crazy. Shaneen gives us such sound, biblical teachings, and powerful exercises to help us heal and move forward as the truly vibrant and beautiful daughters of God that we were created to be. I honestly do not think I would have been able to navigate this last season of separation without Shaneen in my corner. The resources she has given me, the mind-clearing insights she has shared, and her compassionate, reassuring presence have been nothing short of life-saving for me. Anyone exiting or healing from a narcissistic relationship would benefit from participating in her group coaching program. I wholeheartedly recommend this gold mine. It is the best investment you could make in yourself and your healing.

Angelina

Women's Group Alumni

Throughout the entire 12-week journey, I found myself holding back tears. It's truly amazing how God connected me with Shaneen, starting with her YouTube videos. I remember praying to the Lord, expressing my desire to meet her and talk to her. When we finally connected on the phone, I couldn't believe it was happening. Every week of the program, I felt God speaking deeply into my spirit, healing my brokenness. I lacked self-compassion and struggled to love myself. Though I knew God loved me, I didn't know how to fully embrace it. That's where Shaneen and the program modules came in. They helped me not only receive God's love but also learn how to give it back. Now, I find myself in a good place. My greatest takeaway from this program is discovering self-compassion and realizing my own value and importance. Despite the damage caused by the three narcissists I've encountered, this program has rejuvenated my faith and self-esteem. It has taught me that I am important, loved by God, and that I have a purpose.

Deborah

Women's Group Alumni

What an extraordinary blessing the modules have been for me. I've been actively using them, even as recently as now.  I'm applying everything I've learned from the program. I'm determined to avoid repeating past mistakes and finding myself in unhealthy situations again. This program has truly been transformative, and I'm eagerly looking forward to continuing my journey, fully embracing and embodying the lessons I've learned. I no longer want to find myself in the troubled waters that have consumed so much of my life. Lastly, I want to express my immense gratitude for the connections I've made within this group. I value these connections and look forward to staying in touch.

Lilliana

Women's Group Alumni

I have been trapped in a cycle of trauma and negativity for a long time. Words cannot adequately express how profoundly helpful the entire module has been for me. From the insightful writings to the shared experiences, every aspect has made a significant impact. I am immensely grateful for everything all the members in the group have contributed to my life - the invaluable nuggets of truth and wisdom. I have gained more than I can put into words. Each and every one of the women in the group played a part in creating a supportive and loving community. Their friendship, support, prayers, and love have been a true blessing in my life.

Klara

Women's Program Alumni

Everything about this program was amazing: the modules were so informative, the scriptures were spot on, and the exercises helped me not to keep everything in my head. 

The group calls were my favorite part of the program and such a Godsend! The atmosphere of transparency, gentleness, and compassion that Shaneen created allowed me to be comfortable to open up. After being left unheard in a narcissistic relationship, Shaneen’s listening and everyone being so kind and respectful were so encouraging. 

While I mentally knew a lot of my issues before the program, now I understand how to deal with them in a Biblical way. I’m reassured that narcissistic behavior is not okay with God and that He sees my heart to be in the Kingdom and doesn’t judge me for my decision not to remain in an abusive marriage. 

I don’t want this program to end!

Marie

Women's Group Alumni

After the end of my relationship, life was a whirlwind and full of confusion. Being part of this course calmed the storm and enabled my mind to clear so that I now can see and make decisions from a place of being grounded and understanding what is going on. 

The whole program was amazing, but the two things that benefitted me most were the teachings and the group coaching calls. The teaching was so rich and dense, well organized and thoughtful. I’m so grateful for the depth and breadth of study that Shaneen shared with us.

The calls helped me to know I am not alone. Being part of a community of women who really understand my situation was so strengthening and affirming. I also appreciated Shaneen’s transparency and willingness to share her life story. 

If you are even slightly considering this program, do it. And if you aren't considering it, change your mind. It changed my life. Any Christian woman who has suffered in a narcissistic relationship would benefit enormously from participating.

Robin

Women's Group Alumni

I truly believe that this program will have the greatest impact on my life compared to anything I've ever done before – any Bible study or any other endeavor. It has already proven to be the most influential experience I've had so far.

Terri

Women's Group Alumni

This program has been one of the most meaningful experiences in my life, leaving a significant impact on me. Each module has played a role in transforming my journey. Through this program, the Lord has helped me release my need for specific outcomes and instead enjoy the journey of getting to know Him. This part of my journey, getting to know Him better, is priceless, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. It has allowed me to walk in the spirit and overcome the desires of the flesh. Rather than feeling the pressure to have everything figured out, I've learned to be present in each moment with Him.

Additionally, the module on aligning new relationships held great significance for me. For a long time, I lacked meaningful connections, and being part of this group has been a tremendous blessing. Here, every woman understands without needing explanations. We can share and talk openly, fostering a sense of belonging. That level of understanding has been incredibly meaningful to me.

Peter

Men's Group Alumni

Before this program, in all the healing and recovery work I did, there was a key element missing: I didn’t have the language to communicate to the people around me the depths or the kind of pain I had experienced. I couldn’t articulate the results of the abuse or where the enemy had hemmed me in. It was so frustrating. My wheels were spinning and I couldn’t get traction until I engaged in the program. 

God put me in this community where everybody else knew the language.

Isaac

Men's Group Alumni

Both my mom and my ex-fiancee are narcissists. But I had no idea what I was dealing with. I was lonely, dealing with anxiety attacks and self-harm. I had gone through sexual abuse from my mom, but I had no advocate, no one in my corner. I had been in counseling and trying to get help with different pastors, but no one understood or had any idea how to deal with narcissism. Even my therapist was getting sucked in by my mother’s tactics and lies. There was a lot of confusion as I was bringing my struggles to experts, pastors, and counselors because they were saying I was the problem; “You are making it up in your head.” “That’s your reality.” It felt like they were patting me on the head. 

Then I got the email for Shaneen's men's group. 

Even though I was nervous about the financial investment, God provided a way for me to join. At first, I felt like I needed to keep it a secret that I was part of a men's group. I had bought into all the negative, emasculating things that had been put on me about guys in therapy being “quacky” or “soft.” I was afraid of who would be in the group. My first surprise was seeing the caliber of the guys. All my preconceived notions disappeared. I was faced with pastors, leaders, fathers, and men in their older years. I had thought maybe narcissistic relationships were a “younger person” thing and that all the old guys had it together. Hearing them talk, I was like, “dude, these guys are solid.” 

I didn't realize how powerful the program content would be. It was useful and equipping. Each module is very targeted, not just a bunch of lofty ideas. It is sharp and heavy, and it’s there to do the work–and it was real work to sit down and do it. I definitely didn’t pay for a piece of fluff. 

Shaneen and her co-coach’s genuine love for Jesus is very evident. And the presence of the Holy Spirit in their life flows out into this group. I have done counseling before, even with Christian counselors, and it's not been to this level of centeredness on Jesus or this level of agreement to walk in what the Spirit was doing. It is unlike anything I’ve experienced before. 

Now I have a foundation, and am more grounded. I’m also more objective. Since I started confronting the lies and getting the truth, the anxiety is drastically reduced. I find that I am not only able to assess the behaviors of narcissists using what I have learned in the program, but I have also been able to help other family members process anger, guilt, and resentment. I am not the victim anymore; I have actually been the spiritual leader in my family through this situation.  

If you are thinking to join the program, I would just say, “show up.'' It is so important to have that reminder that you are never alone. There are other human beings on this planet walking through the same thing as you. Even if you have nothing to bring, just show up and let God work. He will.

John

Men's Group Alumni

When I first heard about this program I was elated.

I had been discarded by my wife. I felt like I had been cut loose in a heavy current and was being dragged down a river, hitting into rocks and getting caught in ravines. I was scraping and clawing with everything I had, trying to get a grip on something, trying not to drown. But I didn’t know what rocks to grab or where to go to get clarity. I didn’t have a firm way forward. Despite being in good shape physically, I was emotionally devastated, and spiritually too. My thought processes were not in a positive direction like they should have been. I was scared of myself. 

I was researching like crazy, trying to understand what I was going though. But I was asking God to lead me because I know his Word is Truth, and even though there was some truth in the secular sources, I was afraid I could go onto dangerous ground. It was tough.

That’s how I found Shaneen. Her program is jam-packed with scriptural wisdom and understanding, and also touches on the neurological and physiological aspects of healing. She and her co-coach both have sharp minds and a lot of knowledge, but they also have both been through narcissistic abuse and so they really understand it. 

Hearing the other guys in the group share was unbelievable. It was like someone took a page of script out of my life. It was like the program was exposing the operating system for evil. And we were reading the playbook. It  gave me language for what had happened to me.

If you want to fight the good fight, then this is the program for you. If you want wisdom, and you want to get set on solid ground, this is how. Shaneen and her co-coach aren’t going to compromise the truth, but they aren’t going to beat you with it either. Everything is provided, you just have to do the work. It is worth every cent.

Coming out of the program, I feel like I am in my skin. I can look people in the eye now. I am not shuddering inside. I am happy and I have peace now. I used to have the resolve to fight and claw against the current of destruction, because the alternative was to die. I now have the same fight, but I feel confident that I can thrive, and live in God’s purpose by His grace.

Brandon

Men's Group Alumni

The biggest thing was that, before the program, anxiety was killing me. I was bummed and depressed. And since I've been doing the course and talking to my group partner, the anxiety has just gone away because now I know what's wrong, and I know what I was going through, and that I wasn't on my own. And now it's just like, “oh, I get it.” I've got peace.

Arno

Men's Program Alumni

My relationship with a narcissist ended almost 2 years before I joined the program, so I had already done a lot of processing and the acute shock and pain was already gone. So for me it was more the final, or latter part of the healing journey. 

The major thing that prompted me to be in the program was that I had done all the processing of pain on my own, watching youtube, but I had never had interaction with other brothers and sisters who had experienced this kind of trauma. It was a validation that this wasn’t something that was just going on in my head. It was genuine. It was like the icing on the cake. It was a real reinforcement that narcissistic abuse is real, but that God is in control and works all things together for the good of those who love him and who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28. I needed real life interaction with people who had gone through it, because people who haven’t dealt with a narcissist have no idea the power of that kind of trauma. 

The modules are fantastic. I am still processing through them. And being partnered with a buddy to share and process with was invaluable. 

If I had shown up to this program a year and a half ago, it would have been painful but it would have accelerated my healing.

Guys who are thinking about doing the program need to know that the people who have put this together are very caring, empathetic, supportive, and encouraging. Their sole intent is to facilitate the healing process so that you can recover and stand on your own two feet. The program itself is a wonderful opportunity to connect with brothers who have been through a similar experience and who understand what you have been through. 

Nial

Men's Group Alumni

Before the program, my focus was primarily on the past, rehashing things and harboring frustration. I also wrestled with codependency and attachment and had difficulty letting go of the past despite how dysfunctional it was. I feel set free now. My focus is so much more on the present and future than the past, looking forward to what the Lord has in store. I also feel stronger, more confident, and much more the way I was before meeting my significant other and experiencing discard, devaluation, and getting knocked off the pedestal.

Through this program, and solidarity with Christian brothers, I have peace in knowing that it was not my fault I ended up in these circumstances, and God is gracious and even uses what I've been through for good and His glory.

This program was life-changing. Do it! It is worth every penny to invest in the future and change the present.