Why Narcissists Seem to Get Away with Everything (And What God Wants You to Know)

Have you ever watched a narcissist walk away from destruction they caused—completely untouched—while you’re left picking up the pieces?

It feels like they always win. They lie, they manipulate, they deceive, and somehow, they still seem to land on their feet.

And if you’re a person of faith, this can shake you. You might wonder, God, where is your justice? Why do they get to keep hurting people while I’m the one left suffering?

In this blog, I want to give you clarity. I want to show you what’s actually happening behind the scenes—what God says about this—and most importantly, how you can find peace while you wait for justice. By the end of this article, you’ll see the bigger picture that narcissists never want you to see.

 Let’s start with this burning question. Why does it feel like narcissists never face consequences?

I’m going to give you 3 main reasons.

A narcissist’s biggest skill isn’t charm—it’s illusion.

1. Narcissists Manipulate Perception.

They carefully curate how others see them. They'll play the victim when needed, they blame-shift effortlessly.  They can rewrite history like an artist painting a masterpiece.

You might be telling the truth, but they? They’re selling their version of it. That’s why they seem untouchable.

And this is exactly why it feels like they get away with everything. The people around them—friends, family, even authorities—often only see what the narcissist wants them to see.

Have you ever watched a narcissist destroy someone’s reputation, only to convince everyone they were the real victim? That’s how they avoid consequences. They make sure the truth is buried under a mountain of lies before anyone can see it.

And when justice is based on human perception? Well, they know how to play that game better than anyone.

But here’s the truth: while a narcissist may fool people, they will never fool God.

Another reason it feels like narcissists never face consequences is because

2. The World Rewards the most confident, articulate sounding or charismatic person.

The way society is structured—often rewards the appearance of success more than the character behind it. And narcissists understand this. They know how to craft an image. They know that in a world obsessed with perception, reality takes a backseat.

For narcissists, their confidence—no matter how misplaced—draws people in. They know how to make themselves seem like an authority, even when they’re not.  That’s why narcissists often rise in power, in business, in social circles. They exude certainty, and people mistake it for competence. Meanwhile, the humble person—the one who actually does have wisdom—is often overlooked because they don’t self-promote in the same way.

A third reason it feels like narcissists never face consequences is because

3.  The Struggle with Injustice is as Old as Time.

This struggle—the frustration of seeing the arrogant and deceitful rise while the honest are overlooked—is not new. In fact, it’s one of the oldest human struggles recorded in Scripture.

Psalm 73:3-5 says: "For I envied the arrogant when I saw the prosperity of the wicked. They have no struggles; their bodies are healthy and strong."

Doesn’t that sound exactly like what we feel today? Looking at those who lie, manipulate, and scheme—and yet somehow, they seem blessed while we’re struggling?

But here’s the turning point. The psalmist goes on to say in Psalm 73:16-17:

 "When I tried to understand all this, it troubled me deeply till I entered the sanctuary of God; then I understood their final destiny."

This is the moment where everything shifts.

At first, the psalmist is overwhelmed by the unfairness. He’s looking at right now, at this world’s rewards. But when he steps into God’s presence, he sees the bigger picture.

The success of the wicked? It’s an illusion.

Psalm 73:18-19 continues:

 "Surely you place them on slippery ground; you cast them down to ruin. How suddenly are they destroyed, completely swept away by terrors!"

In other words—what looks like prosperity is actually temporary. The narcissist might seem untouchable now, but their foundation is cracked. It won’t hold.

If you feel like narcissists get away with everything, remember this: they are winning a temporary game.  Eventually, their house of cards will collapse. It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but pride always has an expiration date.

And while their foundation is crumbling, yours is being built on something unshakable.

So don’t envy a narcissist's success. Because when the storm comes, the one who built on sand will fall.

But the one who built on the Rock? That’s the one who will stand.

So just remember--When it comes to feeling like there is no justice--You’re not alone in this frustration. The psalmist wrestled with it. We all wrestle with it.

But when we take our eyes off the temporary and step into God’s presence, we see the truth: justice is coming. And in the meantime, you can have peace knowing you are building something real.

Remember that God’s Justice Has a Different Clock—And That’s Why It Feels Like Narcissists Keep Winning

If we’re being honest, most of us don’t just want justice—we want instant justice. We want to see the narcissist exposed, the truth come out, and the scales balanced now.

And when that doesn’t happen, when months or even years go by and they still seem to be living consequence-free, it’s easy to wonder: Is God even watching?

But here’s where we have to be careful—because our idea of justice is often tied to our sense of time. And God’s timeline is different from ours.

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You don’t have to do this alone. Let this be your sacred space to heal, rebuild, and rediscover who you are in Christ.

 Remember, Justice Delayed Is Not Justice Denied

Ecclesiastes 8:11 gives us an uncomfortable truth: "When the sentence for a crime is not quickly carried out, people’s hearts are filled with schemes to do wrong."

This verse perfectly describes why narcissists keep doing what they do. When there are no immediate consequences, they mistake God’s patience for permission.

They assume that because they haven’t faced repercussions yet, they never will. And because of that, they keep pushing boundaries, keep manipulating, keep deceiving.

But what they don’t realize is that God’s justice is not inactive—it’s building.

Think about a dam holding back water. At first, it seems like nothing is happening. The water level rises, but the dam stands firm. Eventually, the pressure reaches a breaking point, and when it does, the flood is sudden, overwhelming, and unstoppable.

That’s how God’s justice works. It may be slow by our standards, but when it comes, it is swift, complete, and inescapable.

We often look at delayed justice and think, Why does God let them get away with it? But in reality, God’s patience is His mercy.

2 Peter 3:9 says: "The Lord is not slow in keeping His promise, as some understand slowness. Instead, He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance."

This means that even for the narcissist—yes, even for them—God’s desire is not immediate punishment, but repentance.

Now, this doesn’t mean they will repent. In fact the Bible says about Jezebel in the amplified Bible, "I gave her time to repent [to change her inner self and her sinful way of thinking], but she has no desire to repent of her immorality and refuses to do so." Revelation 2:21.  Many narcissists never repent. Instead, they double down, and choose deception over truth until the very end.

But that’s why God waits. Because He is giving every opportunity for them to turn around before judgment comes.

That’s hard for us to accept because we see the damage they cause in the meantime. We see the people they hurt, the lies they spread, the destruction they leave behind. And we wonder, God, at what point do You step in?

But that leads us to the next truth.

4.  God’s Justice Is Eternal, Not Just Earthly

We tend to think of justice as something that must happen in this life. But God’s justice is much bigger than that.

Psalm 37:35-36 gives us this perspective:

"I have seen a wicked and ruthless man flourishing like a luxuriant native tree, but he soon passed away and was no more; though I looked for him, he could not be found."

There’s a key word here: soon.

From our perspective, it doesn’t feel soon. We see them thriving for years. But in God’s timeline—measured against eternity—their time is short.

Some narcissists do face justice in this life. They lose everything. They’re exposed. Their relationships crumble.

But others? They seem to prosper till the end. And that’s where we have to trust that God’s judgment extends beyond this life.

Hebrews 9:27 says: "Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment."

No one escapes. No lie goes unnoticed. No manipulation is hidden from God. Every single person will stand before Him and give an account.

And in that moment, there will be no illusions, no false narratives, no smear campaigns. Just the full, unfiltered truth laid bare before the only Judge who cannot be deceived.

So, where does that leave you? How do you deal with the frustration of seeing them get away with it while you suffer?

Remember That God Sees What Others Don’t

 You may feel like no one understands what you’ve been through. Like they got away with the lies while you were left to clean up the mess.

But God saw everything. Psalm 56:8 says:

 “You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle. Are they not in your book?”

Every sleepless night. Every tear you cried. Every injustice that no one else saw—God recorded it. And He will not let it go unanswered. One of the hardest things to accept is that you may never see their downfall firsthand.

 But here’s the thing—your peace cannot be tied to their destruction. Because if it is, you’re still in their prison.

 Romans 12:19 tells us: “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.”

That means you don’t have to carry the weight of their consequences. That’s God’s job.

Your job? Is to heal. To rebuild. To step out of their shadow and into the life God is calling you to. If you spend your energy waiting for their collapse, you will miss what God is doing in your own life.When you feel exhausted, when you wonder if this is fair, you are not alone. Don't let the narcissist's seemingly perfect life fool you. No one truly gets away with anything. Justice belongs to God, and He will not be mocked.

But here’s the key—your peace and healing cannot depend on their destruction.If you stay consumed by waiting for their collapse, they still have power over you. But when you trust God to handle it, you step into freedom.

What dreams has God put on your heart? What doors is He opening? What healing is He inviting you into? Remember, this is your season to build—not to watch the past crumble.  Let me say a prayer for you right now.

Special Prayer

Heavenly Father,

I lift up every person watching this right now—every heart that has been wounded, every soul that has wrestled with injustice, every person who feels unseen and unheard.

Lord, You are the God who sees. You know the truth. You know the pain they carry, the tears they have cried, and the weight of waiting for justice. Today, I ask that You meet them right where they are. Fill them with Your peace, the kind that surpasses understanding. Remind them that You are their defender, their refuge, and their healer.

God, I pray that You break every chain of bitterness, every tie that keeps them connected to the past. Help them step into the new thing You are doing. Open their eyes to see the future You have for them—a future full of healing, hope, and restoration.

I entrust their justice into Your hands, because You are faithful. And I ask that You surround them with Your love, remind them of their worth, and lead them into the freedom that only You can give.

In Jesus’ name,
Amen.

Until next time—breathe deep, stay grounded in truth, and remember: you are not alone, and God is not done with your story.

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Additional Resources:

• When There Is No Justice. How God Brings Restoration Out of the Injustice of Narcissistic Abuse [Watch]
• Forgiving or Enabling a Narcissist?  What would Jesus Do? [Watch]
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• Tempted to Get Revenge on the Narcissist? How God Deals with Someone Who Caused You So Much Pain [Watch] 

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